10A and My Church

I was used to the pastor meetings on the subject of gay ordination
quiet, calm, respectful.
so I brought the issue to my church.

There's a difference between dialogue and debate.
Debate seeks to persuade another.
It's closed to other opinions.
It's more interested in championing a point of view.

Dialogue involves listening to another.
It seeks to understand
and to find common ground.

I thought we would have a dialogue last Wednesday night.
I was wrong.
Gay ordination is a subject of debate in my little congregation.
Some people may leave the PCUSA over it.
Here's why they tell me:

We've strayed too far from the clear mandates of Scripture.
From now on General Assembly will force this down our throats.
There's no such thing as a monogamous gay.
We are encouraging sexual experimentation.

My son is gay, an elder told us.
He is the kindest, most gentle man you will ever meet.
He would make a fine elder.
And from others -
Every gay person I have ever known is kind and loving.
There is no difference. We are all God's children.
My gay friends are too scared to come to church.
A gay minister has spoken in this church and been well received
even though no one knew he was gay.

We are not of one mind on this issue.
We are divided within our congregation
as we are within the Presbytery
as we are within the entire PCUSA.

It's time to breathe
really breathe
the life giving flow of the Holy Spirit.
We dare not move forward
wherever forward is
without taking deep breaths
really deep breaths.

In life and in death we belong to God
In our struggles and fights we belong to God.
In our good times and tension filled times
God will never let us go.
I cling to that
as I take another deep breath.